What I am hearing more and more is that Introverts not only want to be understood, they want a voice.
They want someone to speak up for them and not to them.
Introverts are smart and I truly believe that more are embracing who they are but are exhausted with feeling like they have to conform to an extrovert ideal. Too often they are told to comply with this ideal which is actually asking them to acquiesce versus adapt.
Adapting versus Acquiescing
Let's quickly look at the Merriam-Dictionary definition of each word.
: to make fit (as for a new use) often by modification
: to accept, comply, or submit tacitly or passively —often used with in and sometimes with to
To acquiesce forces introverts to relinquish their power versus using their power to adapt or make something fit through their own modification.
Understanding this difference is key for both introverts and extroverts alike. No one enjoys feeling coerced into doing something they don't want to do and likewise, most do not appreciate when others don't fall in line with the norm.
This is why voice is so important. My mission is to speak up and advocate for real, lasting understanding for introverts. Not as a champion for weak introverts but as a voice for strong introverts who are simply worn out from what is usually years of fruitless attempts.
I saw this happen first hand. The quiet, talented people speak up and are shut down. My belief is that most people, even the so called "leaders" in the corporate world are reasonable. The challenge is that most have been conditioned to believe the extrovert dogma "because that's the way it's always been". One conversation can change everything.
My challenge is for introverts everywhere is to get comfortable using their own voices, respectfully and with conviction.
However, if you are looking for someone to speak up for you, I am here to support you. Feel free to contact me with questions or share your experiences in the comments below.
All my best,
Christian Marie Herron, is Story Mentor and Creative Consultant for entrepreneurs, thinkers and creatives.