I think most of us seek shelter of some kind and in whatever form that feels soothing. For me it’s very literal- a roof over my head, a warm cup of coffee in my hands, a blanket to warm me. Figuratively, I also create shelter or safety with my words and my actions. I say “no” to keep from accepting activities that do not have purpose for me or I delay it if it doesn’t feel right by saying “not yet”. I keep that protective sheath around me until I am ready to be exposed. What I am really describing here is boundaries as they relate to introversion. Retaining energy until you are ready.
It’s difficult to grow if we never move out of safety. We only need the reminder of it, since we can create it any time we wish. But if we don’t move, we stay stuck and possibly grow roots making it difficult to expand or explore. I myself have been untangling myself from this protection, the shell that I created for myself.
I do this through connection. Person by person, experience by experience. It’s not too fast or too slow. It’s just right. The result is that I am finding generous people that exist outside of my rock. They can teach me so that perhaps I can find a larger, more expansive stone under which to rest and grow.
And if it moves, I will move with it.