It's December already. Staring out of my home office window I am reminded of winter in New England, holed up inside under a blanket watching the snow fall. It was so peaceful. It was always so comforting to be sheltered during times like that. I remember when I was about 7 or 8 years old walking outside with my Holly Hobby, clear plastic umbrella in the rain. I had on a slick, yellow raincoat and I held the hooked handle of the umbrella which was large for me, and felt safe under it’s dome. Rain drops patted over the arch of the umbrella as if I were under a stone. Rain poured around me but my small body stayed dry. I remember wanting to stay there always.
I think most of us seek shelter of some kind and in whatever form that feels soothing. For me it’s very literal- a roof over my head, a warm cup of coffee in my hands, a blanket to warm me. Figuratively, I also create shelter or safety with my words and my actions. I say “no” to keep from accepting activities that do not have purpose for me or I delay it if it doesn’t feel right by saying “not yet”. I keep that protective sheath around me until I am ready to be exposed. What I am really describing here is boundaries as they relate to introversion. Retaining energy until you are ready.
It’s difficult to grow if we never move out of safety. We only need the reminder of it, since we can create it any time we wish. But if we don’t move, we stay stuck and possibly grow roots making it difficult to expand or explore. I myself have been untangling myself from this protection, the shell that I created for myself.
I do this through connection. Person by person, experience by experience. It’s not too fast or too slow. It’s just right. The result is that I am finding generous people that exist outside of my rock. They can teach me so that perhaps I can find a larger, more expansive stone under which to rest and grow.
And if it moves, I will move with it.
Tell me, in the comments below the ways in which you find shelter.
All my best,
Christian Marie Herron, is Story Mentor and Creative Consultant for entrepreneurs, thinkers and creatives.