It’s difficult to switch from participant to observer but it can be done with practice, with gentleness. T0 encourage kindness, I will often journal my thoughts. As painful as it sometimes is to write down what hurts most, I feel an immediate sense of relief once I finish. It’s as if the thoughts I have in my mind run loose, causing me to ruminate and be sad. Once on paper though, these thoughts are transformed as messages to my soul, and to my ego. My true self has the ability to look back at the journal entries and make important connections or notice powerful patterns. This is true for both positive and troublesome thoughts.
Kindness to yourself is about allowing yourself to be heard in a way that is soothing to you and validates your presence. There is wisdom to be found in each of us and I believe that we uncover this wisdom when we are ready, when we have made space for it. I think of this as like having a checking account. You know you are spending but are you spending wisely? How do you know? When was the last time you checked? Maybe you put it off because you are afraid that you have spent too much. Or there is pain that you don’t want to acknowledge or more importantly, joy! Once you peer into the reality of the situation, you can take stock and spend more wisely. This is true of your emotions as well.
Here is to kindness and spending wisely.
Tell me in the comments section how you practice kindness. I'd love to hear.
All my best,