Our culture expects us to rush in and fill in the silence with talk. Have you ever felt the need to apologize for being quiet? Do you beat yourself up for not having something witty to say or have the urge to bolt from a room? Yeah. This is actually normal for introverts.
I cannot tell you how many times I have been with a group of people whom I am was not close with and I literally felt as if I was sucking the life out of the room. There definitely was the sense that these people were uncomfortable to be their loud selves around me and this made me feel badly. I did not want them to feel uncomfortable so I would often excuse myself so I could go be where I wanted- happily alone.
"Don't let people charge you with guilt for your temperament. You are not doing anything to extroverts because you are different."
-Marti Olsen Laney
Over time, I learned that it was ok for me to leave a crowd early, especially if my energy felt low. These secret breaks often make introverts feel guilty for not wanting to be "part of the gang". Taking a time out for you is both healthy and necessary. Once your energy is back up you can rejoin the group more easily and are more likely to greet people with enthusiasm.
Tell me, how do you take your time outs? Do you ever feel guilty for doing so?
To Your Success,